Being single is ‘cool’, you can sleep in your bed cross ways, drink as much as you want, enter the house in the wee hours of the night, all without question.
However, as years go by and ‘love seasons’ like the much anticipated Valentine’s Day approach, every woman feels the urge to get a partner. The disturbing fact is, finding a potential husband isn’t just a cup of tea.
If you are interested in a relationship that will possibly lead to marriage or have tried and failed, here is how to find a potential husband as guided by Peter Mutebi, a freelance relationship counselor.
No man will find you in your house. Get out as much as you can and meet different people. Try to do different things even if they make you uncomfortable.
This will help you mingle with different kinds of people and your husband could be among. While there, make sure you don’t behave out of the odd as this may push men a way. Try to be social. Go to church, or mosque, hang out at the beach once in a while and participate in community activities among others.
Every man loves a woman who is proud of who they are. You don’t need to be like your friend or a celebrity on TV, create your own brand.
Every man will be attracted to a confident woman. If it’s a conversation, be confident and remain relevant. Keep eye contact in your conversations and show everyone you are proud of who you are.
Give them a chance
Being open exposes you to different people hence getting a wide range of choices to make. Don’t judge anyone at first sight because in most cases people are not what you see. Take time to understand someone and give them a chance to express themselves.
“Some girls will ignore a man on foot just because their dream husband should own a car. Remember that some dreams are illusions and that some things can be achieved with time,” he adds.
Ask others to help
It’s not that everyone married today got the partners themselves. Spread the gospel to your friends, relatives and church mates. Tell them you are searching and be clear on the kind of husband you want.
Try online dating
We have seen a couple of dating sites introduced in Uganda, many people have managed to get potential partners and are happily married. You can choose to try it out as well.
Be sure of the person you are talking to, don’t meet them alone on the first date because you don’t know who they are.
Looking miserable will cost you opportunities. It’s natural that all men are attracted to good looking women. Dress up nicely, wear a good perfume and shoes, and just be you, this will earn you a man. Mind about your health, eat well, and take a lot water to keep a good skin.
Move alone once in a while
It’s undoubtedly a girl-thing to moving or do things in a group or atleast with a friend. This can be tricky when you are trying to date. Take time off alone, this will invite a potential man. Chose a day and decide to walk around, go for that cool movie and your luck will follow you there.
Your potential husband might fail to approach a whole group of ladies to single you out so, get yourself space!
Tell the truth
Some girls will deny that they are searching or play hard to get, which is, again, a girl-thing. Be open to those who come to you prioritizing friendship and getting to know you.
Tell them you are searching and that you want a serious partner. This isn’t playing cheap like most people think, telling a man you are single doesn’t reduce you in some kind of way because you are searching anyway.